The answer is simple. Do something worth noticing. Now, that sounds snide, but I honestly don't mean it that way. If you think about it, you will know that I am right. Men are creatures of habit. If you have been going along, doing the same old same old, cooking the same food, wearing the same type of clothes, styling your hair the same way, and not attempting anything different, pretty soon, he's going to be looking around for distractions. YOU should be the distraction!
While my Tom was alive, he always would hurry home to see what I was up to. Now, I never was the type that was getting into trouble. That is definitely not what I mean. For example, he loved my long hair, but I told him, that if I was to keep growing it long, he had to help me brush it, because it was getting too long for me to reach the end, and if I was going to brush it a hundred strokes a night, I would need him to do at least 50. Well. He did for a while,and then he started ducking out on it, like going to bed while I was in the shower and things like that. So after a couple of weeks, one day he came home,and to his surprise I had cut it. It had been down past my waist,and I had trimmed it back to shoulder length,frosted it, and restyled it. He loved it, much to his chagrin, but he still asked why,and I pulled no punches.
"You," I said, " Did not fulfill your part of the bargain. It was hurting my arms to care for it at that length, so I had to make it more manageable. Next time, remember. Make me a promise, you better keep it!"
Be creative. You don't have to be artsy-fartsy exactly,but if you can write, or sing in your spare time, it couldn't hurt. Surprise him with his favorite meal,and flowers on the table once in a while...and it would be a nice touch if you dressed up and put some make-up on. Husbands tend to loose interest if they feel you have lost interest in them.In your request, you used a term that is sure to turn a man off. No man wants to feel like your begging for their attention, because it's annoying. Surely you have interests beyond just your husband. Perhaps things that you have put on the back burner. Nows the time to dig that stuff back out. Reading. Music. knitting or needle work,hooking rugs or painting. If you have children, there are wonderful things you can do with the kids. Write stories and read them to them. Don't just sit around waiting for him to notice you, DO SOMETHING!
And finally, if and when you get his attention, listen to him. Men love that!
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Posted by: Debbie | July 02, 2007 at 08:16 PM