Well, ideally, when I have done something wrong, I am the first one to own up to it. Life is too short to go around with guilt,unconfessed. I say, I did it, I am sorry, this is why,and offer my apologies,and/or reparations. If I know I did it, I don't wait to be accused. However, on the other hand, when I am accused of something of which I am not guilty, I try to explain the mix-up or misunderstanding,which is all it usually is. Sometimes this is all that is necessary, but not always. I can recall instances when I was caught in a situation that looked, or sounded really bad, and I thought, my Goodness! I didn't mean it that way! How do I explain my point of view? I spend a lot of time, looking at the whole situation from different perspectives,and try to think of ways to help that accuser to see it from my point of view. This can get really sticky, particularly if the person doing the accusing is the only other person who was in a position to have actually done the deed themselves! If the person is like me,and thinks on several different levels at the same time,then at the same time they are being logical and reasoning it out to find an adequate explanation, they might also be thinking, how can someone think that of me? If they know me at all, then they have to know that I would never intentionally try to hurt someones feelings, or try to do damage to them! At the same time, I am distracted, on another level, thinking, what are my family and friends going to think if they hear about this? Will they believe me,and stand by me, or will they turn their back on me,and take the other persons side?
I believe it is this multi-level reaction that causes persons accused of something to be confused. So many thoughts coursing through one's brain has a tendency to make them go into "shock " and it takes a while for the human brain to sort out all of the emotional response, from the true facts of the case,so that there can be an intelligible,effective statement made of their part in the whole affair. This is why sometimes you will hear of someone accused of a crime, let's say, who has nothing to say! They have been stunned into silence! And little wonder! When you go from, "Who took the last pecan Sandie?" to "Did you shoot your wife?" there is a whole lot more at stake,and therefore, a whole lot more going on in their heads, with far greater ramifications,should they be guilty of the former, but not of the latter, they have to be careful not to blurt out " I did it!" meaning the cookie, when being asked about the wife! Which brings me back to my original point. Should the man be constantly hiding little secrets, which translate into large guilt, then who knows what is going to fly out of his mouth when there is so much piled up on his conscience? So, it is best to unburden yourself as soon as possible when you do make a mistake, than to clog up your faculties with unconfessed no-no's. That leaves a whole lot more room in your thought processes to deal with serious problems, and also relieves some of the confusion one experiences when dealing with unfounded accusations.
Last of all, Panic. Everyone goes through Panic to a certain degree when they are accused of anything, regardless of whether it is true or not, depending on how serious the charge. This can be a persons undoing. Panic makes everything, no matter how insignificant, blow up out of proportion. Now, I have to correct myself here, because it isn't just panic, it's flight-panic. This is an instinctive reaction to a threat, which, if the person has little self-control, and a tendency to over-react,will be a persons first response to any emergency,but only because it is triggered by absence of thought. Whether or not the person will follow that instinct, is determined by how quickly they are able to haul back on that urge to run, in favor of calm determination of how serious the situation is, and what can be done about their defense, and if it is necessary. Sometimes, the charge is so ludicrous, as to put doubt into others minds as to the innocence of the person, because they were too quick to defend themselves! The truth is, sometimes the best defense against an unfair accusation is, nothing at all.
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