Yes, I am in campmeeting, but I have been talking to a young lady, whose been so badly used, and my heart went out to her. I won't reveal any personal information about her, but this woman had put her heart and soul into this relationship, and what did she get for it? NADA. Zip. Zilch.Bupkus! Say all you want about she should have done this or that, but does that make what he did any better? Of course women need to be Savvy about what a man is capable of, and sometimes we have to experience the harsh reality that men will take advantage of our giving nature,because they can. I am not going to debate with anyone whether or not a man should use a woman for his enjoyment, knowing he can because she had the misfortune to fall in love with him. We all know both men and women will do despicable things to one another.I've heard the arguments, well, he/she does that now because they've been hurt, so they are just out to hurt others the way they were.Well, that is just downright silly. None of us is born with the knowledge of how to properly interact with the opposite sex. It is begun with watching our parents, but that is only the basis for our frame of reference. As we move into adulthood, we have episodes, that if we have proper guidance, soon teaches us that not everyone is trustworthy. We women learn that men, by and large, do not have the same desires that we do. When they tell us they love us, but they cannot be faithful, we know enough to believe them, thank them for their honesty, write them off, and move on. Most women want a man who will be faithful to them, and perhaps settle down with them as husband and wife, and raise children. That is the dream. But, if that's not going to happen, we at least want faithfulness and love. Men, on the other hand, want fun.They want to run around with a different beautiful woman every night, be admired for their hot car, and their women, and have others, especially other men, envy them for all of that, as well as for their stories of their sexual escapades. Those are the norms. From there we deviate off into Men and Women both who want to run around, but not for the same reasons. He fancies himself as some sort of Don Juan and his bedroom abilities are so good, he must spread it around, and usually ends up juggling several women at the same time,regardless of who he hurts. It doesn't matter, as long as it isn't him.And, if he picks up a few goodies along the way, what's the problem? It is funny to him that he can borrow some chick's car,and use it to take other women out. Then, he is so egotistical, he gets mad if the chick asks for her car back! He's not mad at her, really, he's just upset because now he has to explain to all those girls what happened to his new car, without looking like a fool! She, on the other hand, does all her running around for revenge, or because she fancies herself as a heart-breaker, or home-wrecker. She's so hot, no man can resist her, and she's going to prove it. Just watch mama run! Strangely, this phrase is used by more single girls who have never had a child in their life, and would be horrified if they got pregnant. She will go after a guy just to prove she can get him away from his girlfriend, and it is not uncommon that both are "friends" of hers. She will do anything, with anyone whose even half-way attractive, as long as she knows someone else wants him. She will come on to a guy, just to break up his relationship, and as soon as she has him, will drop him as though he never existed...unless she finds a certain joy in dangling that guy in front of his ex-girlfriend. That's when she will use that now famous phrase," Can't we all just be friends? I didn't mean to fall in love with your man, it just happened." So, now you know. These are the players, and some of the games they play. There are variations on these same themes, but I have outlined the basic ones. So, if you are sincere, watch out for the players. When you least expect it, you may run up against one of them. Understand?
Oh, by the way! Should you find yourself caught up in a players game, and the realization hits you, run, don't walk, to the nearest exit, don't look back, don't ask for directions or explanations, because you won't get a straight answer from them, so I will give it to you. See, their whole life, for whatever reason, is a game, and the point is, your heart? That's the toy!
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